Sunday, September 06, 2009

Ain't Got Nuthin'

Nothing but some whining maybe! I hate that I have not posted much lately but there is just nothing going on around here. Well, besides going back to work and that somehow, seems to swallow up all time between driving to and from and getting ready for etc etc.
It's been raining for the past several days so not much going on for the outside of the house. I plan on continuing my stained glass work today and tomorrow. Hope everyone has a fun time with friends and family tomorrow also.
For the past 2 weeks I have been trying very hard to get out and meet some new people and expand my socializing. It sucks. I went out to dinner with a nice man last week but nothing there. I have come to the conclusion that I am socially incompetent. I try to make all the appropriate gestures to show my interest (but not too much) and otherwise be involved but it's just not working. I have no idea how a woman is supposed to act. I mean, I know how to be a lady but as far as whether you should ask a man out or let him, blah, blah, blah. And I don't think a lot of them really understand that I can't stay up talking until 10:00 at night when I have to get up and pour concrete at 5:00 a.m. the next day.
I'm glad that you all are here but can't know me in person and see how screwed up I really am. For all my physical talents I have no personal skills. So, don't envy me that I can weld and do all this other crap. In the end it doesn't mean much.
Okay, before this goes further downhill, I'm going to end here. I've missed hearing from all you out there and will try to post more. I was recently reading another blog and they were talking about the advantages and disadvantages of blogging and all the psychological implications of such. It was very interesting and thought provoking but they made one comment that I did not agree with. They said that the friends made here could not be 'real' friends because you can't be there in person with them. I don't know that I agree. I miss you all if I don't hear from you in a while. You all often lift my spirits and make me feel better. Ya'll make me think about things in different ways, from different viewpoints. And I have even received actual gifts from some of you, which I cherish very much. Isn't that what 'real' friends are, whether you can actually touch them or not?


*Oasis

7 comments:

HermitJim said...

Hey, it makes perfect sense to me! I agree that the friends we meet online areas real, often more so, that those off line. The reason may just be that sometimes it's easier to open up to them.

I wouldn't worry about not posting for a bit...we all have to take some time off and recharge from time to time. We'll be here when you are ready!

You have a good day. my friend!

edifice rex said...

Hey Jim! you may be right. I have written stuff on here that I would not tell my family because I feel they would judge me harshly and I don't think my readers do.
thanks for stopping by and your kind words.

Richard said...

Socially incompetent...I don't think so. That's a self fulfilling prophecy. As for how to act, just be yourself.

I recently met a bunch of bloggers while birding. They were just as nice in person as on their blogs. I think that we tend to be more honest in writing then in person sometimes.

edifice rex said...

I think you are correct on all accounts there Richard! I do just try to be myself; I think that's the problem! lol! just kidding, but sometimes I feel like a bull in a china shop.

Floridacracker said...

I'm with you. I think they were wrong. I have that feeling of friendship with my regular visitors, even though I haven't met most, and probably never will. The ones I have met just reinforce that friendship idea as it felt like visiting a friend with little first meeting awkwardness.
We've never met, but I sure feel like Annie in Alabama is a friend of mine.
I find myself watching the news or weather channel and thinking ..." Annie and Karen (Rurality) are getting rain today.

We support each other, give advice, take advice, share events ... that seems to be what the friends I actually know do. Seems real to me.

You have a great week !

edifice rex said...

Hey FC! Annie in Alabama is certainly a friend of yours! I agree, it all seems real to me and I'm willing to go with that.
you have a good week too!

Robbyn said...

Hey girl! we folks online are real friends...so interesting how we all can cut through the proprieties and just get down to talking about what's real. You'll find some people "in person" like that, too...maybe there's just a difference between people who want to small talk and others who actually have some depth and common vision, or instant ease without having to say a lot all the time...some people have thought I'm antisocial but I'm not happiest when keeping things shallow for too long...but put some of us in the same room who want to talk about many of the things this blogging community share on a daily basis, and you can't shut us up :)

Oh, and P.S....not many people know this but I met my husband via the computer, yep :)

I think you're great and no one would find you less, unless it's just not meant to be